It occurred to me that there were two sets of virtues, the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues. The résumé virtues are the skills you bring to the marketplace. The eulogy virtues are the ones that are talked about at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, honest or faithful. Were you capable of deep love?—David Brooks in The Moral Bucket List

Résumé virtues and eulogy virtues. What a powerful distinction. Brooks goes into some detail about the development of "those incandescent souls you sometimes meet." He wrote a book too, The Road to Character.